Love it or hate it?

Illegal Immigration: you either you love it or you hate it.
No, not really.
At least, that’s not how it is for me. Even though you can run into some very extremist opinions on the net, like Jeff H. from Kentucky, who says in his blog:
“I hate illegal aliens. I don't want them in my countrymaking imbecilic statements such as "We were all immigrants once."

Others, like Rwarky, appreciate some of the aspects that illegal immigration brings into the picture:
“1) They do jobs I don't want to do.
2) Help make cities more vibrant.
3) I love Latin women.
4) They help divert attention from us African Americans.
5) I love Mexican and Central American food.”

Immigration first became such a debated topic in 1968 when an act was established to eliminate US immigration discrimination based on race, place of birth, sex and residence.
Some people complain about illegal immigrants taking their jobs, some about how without them, some markets would fail. Some believe all Americans should speak English and abide the American ideals, others, believe these immigrants and their cultures are the basic component of what America is today.
To be able to find a middle ground between these two very polarized positions, we have to consider the actual laws that illegal immigrants abide by in the U.S. Right now, illegal immigration is not considered a crime but a civil infraction, illegal entry is considered a misdemeanor. Forging immigration documents is, on the other hand, a crime.
Neither of the Presidential Candidates have such extremist views, thankfully. McCain created a comprehensive immigration reform on 07, but when he was criticized by his peers, he told voters the reform would not be implanted until the borders were secured.
Obama, has supported bills for employment authorization verification system, and temporary worker component. His main goals are to secure the borders, remove incentives to come illegally and work with Mexico.
Immigration hasn't really been brought up a lot in the Presidential debates, or in their speeches. Why? I think it has a lot to do with the fact that both candidates have very similar positions on it, and that both are trying to stand on middle-ground and trying to stay away from severe positions, so they can still count on people with and against immigration. And to me, it feels like they are underestimating our capacity to read through all of this and discover the real reason. Another big reason it hasn't come up though, is that economy has overshadowed everything else...
So how do these two opinions merge? Or better yet, how can we end racist and demeaning rants from haters by enforcing logical laws?
I believe the borders need to be secured, that’s a fact. Also, thousands of people die trying to cross the border every year, not counting the ones that do make it across but end up dying on the American side due to their lack of money or available medical services. But I also believe it’s not the first thing that needs to be done. I think the government should offer illegal immigrants programs for they to gain the American nationality by giving something back (social work, college studies, etc), or show proof that they are working and paying taxes. Also, I think illegal immigrant children should have to go to public schools or colleges. If any of the illegal immigrants don’t follow these rules should then have to go back.
The government can’t make everyone happy, but with rules and laws that limit and help illegal immigrants, we can make both them and Americans satisfied.